Updated: Mar 10
Sometimes, you need to get angry to achieve your goal. Your parents' attitudes could play a crucial role in your life.
I grew up in a family with a genius dad. He was a musician, artist, auto engineer; he memorized every tiny detail from books on history, philosophy, and more - if I continue this row, I am afraid I will exceed the number of characters allowed. He never told me once, "You can do it! or Good job!" If I were getting a grade lower than A, I was not good enough. I was told that I would never succeed in life. Okay, then! That was a great engine that moved me forward! Those words angered me to the point that I promised myself to disprove them. I left my family after my sixteenth birthday. I carved my way to the first college and then the second. Life has never been a bed of roses for me, rather, there were many thorns, and, unfortunately, these suckers were not always caused by my mistakes. Should I complain and ask for a handkerchief to wipe my tears and blow my nose? No. I mind my snotty business in solitude.
I could, probably, make a pretty good hype by bringing up my dramatic past. Let's throw my Jewish grandfather in the mix, as well. He was punished for his apolitical views, then escaped from a labor camp, and, eventually, was protected by my grandmother - who happened to be brave enough to marry him. Someday, I will write a story about them. Now, I am sorry, but I feel better sticking to my thorns before I smell the roses.
I appreciate my rough experiences. Who knows, maybe if my parents said something like "Oh, don't cry, baby. You can do anything! You are beautiful, talented, and so much more," then I might do nothing.